Confidence is probably the most commonly heard. It is believing in your abilities and yourself. It means you are aware of what you are good at.Having high self- esteem is a big part of being confident and this helps you be positive of who you are.
“It is confidence in our bodies,minds and spirits that allow us to keep looking for new adventures”-Oprah Winfrey
We want our children to be confident. It is an attractive quality that the adults value.It is not something innate or something they were born with. It is some of the things that we do that would make the child confident or unconfident about themselves.
The following can be the ways that can help your child build confidence:
Ensuring your children have rules:
Your children need rules, they need a structure, which they can grow. As a parent you want to establish communication, discipline and obedience without sounding like a dictator. Whether you realise it or not, your kids want you to make rules for them.
Stop doing everything for them:
Getting them dressed, tying their shoes, packing their bags. Let them do things for themselves. Doing everything for them would make them less progressive and it would hinder their confidence.
Having a good healthy family bond:
Super important to have a good connection. When the family feels connected that directly impacts the person’s identity and so happens also when a person feels disconnected. The dysfunction in the family largely affects the child’s confidence. Defining the role of each member in the family is also essential. Besides, they should know that they are loved unconditionally. Feeling loved and accepted is the foundation of confidence.
Empower them to make their own decisions:
When they know what rewards and punishments are for any given situation, your kids will build self-confidence through making their own decisions and they’ll be empowered to make their own decisions and take responsibility for their actions. Even if, the children are young giving them options is a good way to build their confidence. When you give them choices, they feel in control and that helps in building confidence. In this way you are giving them a choice of either of which you are okay with.
Should not victimise themselves:
Some children during their growing time, have an increased anxiety and feel the world is caving around them. This feeling could be through experience or however, but this will inhibit their confidence. The child must be able to take the charge of himself rather than victimising himself in any situation.
Give them an age appropriate task:
It could be regular chores, responsibility or anything. These household chores can sound simple but this will instill a sense of responsibility and make them content that they are contributing to the family.
Dress them in comfortable clothing:
We want our children to be nice-looking and make all the efforts to make them dress glamorously. Care must be towards dressing them comfortably and not just over-doing with their dressing. No make up to be applied to them, for them to feel comfortable in their own skin and for them to feel accepted the way they are.
Ensuring that they are heard:
The children must feel heard and must feel their opinions are considered and valued. You can take opinions from them on home decor, furniture etc. Including the child in making choices for home decor, furniture or anything.Parents often undermine the child’s opinions when it comes to giving opinions.
Let the child believe that they are valuable….
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