What does it seem like?
Gaslighting in a nutshell when someone is manipulating you through undermining you or giving you conflicting information about your own experience they’re trying to cause you to make you question the way you feel about yourself. These traits are often found in narcissistic people to manipulate you in order to control you. This makes you question your decision and experience.
The questions you ask yourself may be I am too sensitive , maybe I wasn’t that bad. In most cases your inner voice starts telling you you’re crazy. It is very important to be selective about the people around you. Most often toxic people can make you feel this way, this can definitely hit hard on your confidence. For example if you’re growing around people who feel you are not good enough repeatedly. You learn to adopt that belief.
Blaming yourself for not ‘handling things better’
You blame yourself for every circumstance without acknowledging all the difficulties / challenges that you have undergone and the strength that you have displayed throughout.
Criticizing yourself for being too sensitive or emotional
Overthinking to yourself and replay the situation and finding yourself silly and might feel that you had been overly expressive about something.
Shaming yourself for being too needy
This also comes from a place that made you feel seeking and rejected. It makes you feel that you’re being needy of what you want.
Justifying someone else’s behavior by taking accountability for it yourself
Justifying someone’s behavior can make you feel apologetic quite often. Apologizing for every little thing can actually send a message that you lack confidence. Constant apologies are not effective and appealing for oneself.
World has many predators who may leave no chance to make you feel worse in such cases. It is important that you recognise yourself. Accept yourself and most importantly learn to forgive yourself from past experiences.
Affirmations for ones who gaslight themselves
- My feeling are valid
- I’m not too much, I’m enough
- I’m doing better
- I am not responsible for other people’s toxic behavior
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