When we worry too much about what others think of us,we marginalize ourselves. It can be exhausting to please everyone all the time, it is impossible. You can only live life to the fullest once you start focusing on channelising your time and efforts in the desired direction .
Your adolescent years are the times when you feel the opinion of others matters to you more than your real self. We often during this life phase seek social validation(these days commonly in the form of social media likes) and also at times get let down if you don’t happen to see it in favor of you. Well, it takes good years to be thick skinned (on a lighter vein) to resist every bit of people’s opinion.
The following are the ways in which you can avoid thinking about what others think of you.
1. Remember that the people are not interested in you:
Sometimes people tend to overestimate how much other people pay attention to them. In psychology, we call this “spotlight effect”.
Over-Analysing it can be futile and may lead to nothing.Consider it if you feel it can be helpful or just let it go.
2. Don’t try to mind-read:
Stop mind reading. You cannot tell what other people are thinking of you, and most of the time your assumptions might be wrong.
3. Know what you are usually your own worst critic:
We often project our own insecurities onto others. Be mindful of the way you speak to yourself. You might be afraid of being judged by others. However, you might forget that you are your own worst critic.
4. Expect and accept that people will have opinions of you:
Just like you have opinions about others, people will have opinions about you.
5. Your life decisions and goals cannot be lead by people’s opinion:
We often come across people who love to give their opinions on your career choices and your life choices too. Without even knowing enough about you or having any expertise in doing so.In these situations, listen to everyone and choose what suits you best. Do not let your life be driven away by people’s opinion.
6. Do not let it drag you down:
People’s opinion about you may not always work pleasantly for you. You must take it with a pinch of salt and stop over analyzing. Let it not question your worth.
7. Focus on managing your thoughts and how they affect your behavior:
Feeling anxious about what others think of you will result in people-pleasing, not setting boundaries , and not being your authentic self.
8. Grow a positive mindset:
Your subconscious mind plays an important role in shaping you. Most of what you attract in life is how you perceive things to be. So, be mindful in your conversation about and with yourself.
Remember, taking other people’s opinion as truth can lead to a vicious cycle of insecurity and vulnerability that will cause you more pain and hurt. So be gentle with yourself.
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